Are you wanting to keep the spark alive in a long distance relationship? Trying to light it for the first time? Either way, it’s a great idea. Just because you are separated by distance doesn’t mean that you can’t have fun and keep things exciting. When you think of the go-to way to seduce someone, your mind might jump straight to sending nudes, but it’s far from being the only way to do it. There are actually many other ways you can seduce your partner – ways that are more effective, and don’t require extra effort or creativity. Your partner might even find them sexier than nudes!
1. Arousing words
A lot of things can be said, or suggested, in a message. Follow the same principle of sending a nude, but in writing. It’s a bit intimidating the first time – you’re sure to get an adrenaline rush and be a little afraid of how he will react. But 99.9% of the time, his reaction is sure to be positive. Send him something like this: “I’ve just come in from the garden, I fell asleep in the sun. If you could see the tan lines that I have when I take off my top…”
2. A photo without you in it
We know that a picture is worth a thousand words, so why not opt for a photo? The catch here is that you won’t be visible in it. You can experiment with your silhouette or lay out your underwear in a suggestive way. Don’t be shy! You can use your bed, or even your bath, as a prop for your photo.
3. A photo showing almost nothing
Instead of revealing all of your body in a nude, you can emphasise the allure of different parts of it. For example, you can take a photo of your shoulder with your bra strap down. Or you could take a photo of your bare legs, one against the other in bed, in the bath, or somewhere else. Another possibility is a photo of bare parts of your body hidden behind something, like a pillow. The idea is to just unveil a small part of yourself, so he wants to come and see the rest. Good lighting is key – it will make your photo look like a work of art.
This article might come across as slightly challenging. It requires you to tap into the part of your femininity which lets you be playful with a man and embrace your power of seduction.
4. A sensual and explicit voice note
Our voice is a part of us that we tend to neglect when it comes to seduction, but experimenting with a sexy message is sure to raise the temperature by a few degrees. You can send your voice note by itself, or with one of the photos mentioned above to help illustrate your point. There is no need for long messages, what counts here is your tone of voice. A few words will be enough: “I’m at home, waiting for you”, or “I’m already naked”. It’s time to use your most sensual voice.
5. Sexy music
If your partner is sensitive to sound, sending him a song can be a good idea. Try to do it according to your tastes. The song should be explicitly sexy, and you can draw inspiration from the ready-made playlists on Deezer and Spotify. To make sure you have his attention and steer his mind in the right direction, you can write: “I want to listen to this the next time we have sex.”
6. Written on your body
As well as showing him your body, you can also write messages on it. There are different ways to do this – what I suggest is to make it like a treasure map. You can start with “I’m waiting for you” on the inside of your forearm. Then, take photos of other parts of your body and write “here”. This can be written as a message, or on your body. Choose which parts of your body that you want to show, like your neck, your shoulders, your hips, or your mouth. Use your imagination!
7. Rekindle a memory
If you’ve already spent some steamy moments together, don’t forget to remind him how good they were. Bring back the memory of that time. You can take a photo of the corner of your bedsheets, the carpet, the wall or your underwear (you get the idea), whatever you think would be emblematic of that day. Remind him of what you did together, how you felt, why you liked it, and what you liked. Make him want to do it again.
8. Boomerangs and other effects
We have so many different video and photo effects available at our fingertips, our content never has to be the same. The boomerang effect, which can be found on Instagram, is a good way to play around with your photos. Choose what you want to capture and add some movement. Let your creativity flow: move one leg against the other, bite your lip, run your fingers down your neck, move your dress around.
9. A deconstructed striptease
Sending a message in two parts can create an interesting effect. Beyond the content of the message, there is a feeling of storytelling and rhythm, and of fracture, expectation and surprise.
Start by sending “I’m home”. Wait a little, and then send a photo showing the clothes you’ve just taken off on the floor. After that, send him a mini video which implies that you are naked.
You don’t need to worry whether or not he has seen the messages before you send the next one. Even if you don’t have the “discovery in real time” effect, it’s still effective. You can also try sending them as an Instagram DM, as he then has no choice but to open the photos in order – and you can make them disappear afterwards. Either way, this technique is very, very effective and shows that you are really comfortable with playing around.
10. Try a challenge
There is something sexy about a game, even when played from afar. I’m sure your partner will love being challenged. You can make him guess the colour of your underwear, even if the correct answer is that you aren’t wearing any. Try out some different ideas, or you could dive straight in by asking him something like: do you think you can make me orgasm from where you are right now?
When you know each other well, you can go even further. Hide something personal or intimate at his house and make him find it when you’re apart. Getting hotter, hotter, you’re red hot… What do you mean you want to see me right now? 😈
