Our quest for love and happiness sometimes leads us through different phases: phases of trust, but also phases of doubt, or even phases of lack. Eventually, instead of focusing on what we want and the positive that having that thing would bring us, we focus on what we lack. Thus, while thinking we have the right approach, we unfortunately create the opposite effect of what we hope for. You have probably heard people talk about their love stories and say, “it happened to me when I least expected it!” Maybe you have experienced this yourself! The reason? We attract what we are!
Familiarize yourself with the Law of Attraction
You have certainly heard this term before, but do you have a real idea of what it means? The Law of Attraction represents us as magnets. It indicates that we attract to ourselves what resembles us, and visualization is an important element of it. It is about carrying within us what we want to see happen. This law thus allows us to simplify complex scientific notions according to which we are energies that attract others. Indeed, it is the belief that by focusing on positive thoughts, we attract positive things. It complements the idea that not only what happens in us is felt on the outside but also determines what comes towards us. For example, if I am focused on what is not going well in my life, I will only see that and attract other negative experiences to me. On the other hand, if I am focused on what is good in my life, that is what I will attract! The Law of Attraction is one of the major principles of personal development: it allows us to give meaning to our experiences and to approach what comes differently.
If you think negatively, you will attract negative things
You understand that if you think negatively, not only will it show, but more importantly, it will determine what comes to you. At first glance, these people and things will also be negative… It is not certain that this will improve the situation! Also, I am not telling you anything new by saying that it’s all a matter of perspective: the glass half full… The goal is therefore to learn to think positively to “clean” our energy and attract what we want! The most important thing is to focus on what you want, not on what you lack. This nuance makes all the difference: if you think about what you don’t have, you create a state of lack and it shows. On the other hand, by thinking positively about what you want, by visualizing it as if you already had it, you put yourself in a state of mind ready to receive! This explains why many people notice that it is only once they are in a couple that they attract people who did not notice them before. It’s simply that now that they are fulfilled, they emit waves corresponding to these people, which was not the case when they emitted a state of lack.
We must cultivate our own happiness
Learning to think positively does not happen overnight, but it does happen! Even the most pessimistic among us can learn to “reformat” their brain and allow it to think positively. Let’s go back to our perspectives: our brain sees what we want it to see. Thus, if you are looking to see red cars, that’s all you will see! The same goes for positive and negative. How to change our perception? By teaching it little by little to see the positive. To start, write down three positive things that happened to you during the day or for which you are grateful. Then say them out loud. Saying them and hearing them will make them even more real to you. Get into this habit and after a few weeks, you will be more able to see the positive. Communicating about what you are grateful for will also teach you to be.
